Me and my husband have been married almost 16 years now. And turns out he made the choice to cheat on me and had been doing it for 3 months or so.
So on January 14, I am rushed to my front door by a banging at 830am. I open up and see a man in Army Uniform. So my first thought is that something has happened to my husband and they have come to give me the bad news. Boy was I wrong. This man says to me ” ma’am , I feel like you should know what’s going on between my wife and your husband”. Im like who is your wife? He points down to the corner where there is another car parked and says Ahunika. He has pictures of text messages. And copies of motel receipts. He tells me my husbands phone number. He tells me exactly where my husband is at that moment since he had read a text message. I’m absolutely flabbergasted.
Now this girl lives about 2 blocks away. I don’t know her personally other than when she would hang out with my next door neighbor. However she has been inside my home because my mother makes hair bows for little girls and she would come to buy from her. This girl knew me and my husband were married and had a family.
She approached my husband at our kids elementary school as they were waiting to pick up kids. She tells him that she thinks he is so sexy and then gives him her number. And my stupid husband fell right into her lap. He was seeing her on his lunch break and the days that I had to work late shifts he would see her then. They would hook up at a motel that SHE would pay for with her husbands money because she does not work and has no income.
So everything comes out on that horrible day of January 14, 2015. However a week later we find out the skank is also pregnant. So I say to my husband how can we be sure its your baby? He says well her husband has had a vasectomy. So now we are not only dealing with a infidelity issue but now also a baby on the way.
My husband breaks it off with her and says it was never about him leaving me for her, that it just is something that happened. However this girl still wants in his pants. She texts him all the time. She says that if he stays with me than he will not get to see his kid because she does not want it near me. At the school when I pick up my kids she seems to always find a way to flaunt her pregnant belly to me. I went out of my way to have my kids come out of a different exit then hers in order to avoid her and she still manages to be where I am even though her kids don’t come out through there. Me and my husband are separated because he is a coward. I told him I still wanted to be with him even though all that has happened and everything that will be happening but he says he is afraid of all the outcome later when the kid is born. So he is basically man enough to cheat and have sex but not man enough to work thru the issues that his choices have caused.
Im furious and angry and disappointed in him. I don’t know if I will ever be able to forgive him for destroying our family. He is fully to blame for all the hurt and pain my kids and myself are going through.
But I absolutely HATE her because she knew we were a family and married and she decided it was ok to bring herself into my marriage. She made that first move. She didn’t care who it would affect.