Two years ago, in 2012, I received an email from the boyfriend of my husband’s mistress, telling me that my husband had been carrying on a 12 year affair with his ex, Julieanne Mazurkiewicz. He had obviously done his research and included, as proof of the affair, private facebook postings between my husband and his mistress as well as cell phone records.
I was devastated.
But this story goes back further – to 1998.
I was living in Amherst, NY with my then fiancé. We’d had a few encounters with my husband’s ex while living there. A couple of times we ran into her while we were out with friends where she, and her friends promptly began flipping me off and yelling “fuck you” our way. She would also call our home and ask for my fiancé. When I asked her who this was she would hang up. Ever hear of *69?? It was clear to everyone that she was still not over her relationship with him and angry/jealous.
As I left Amherst to move back to Texas to begin planning our wedding I never dreamed that she would show up at our home in Amherst where my fiancé was still living to wrap up things and prepare for his move. But that’s exactly what happened. Upon a matter of days after hearing that I was no longer living there she showed up at our home, drunk off her ass, as my husband explained it, wanting to spend the night with him. Really?? How desperate.
Ten months later, my fiancé moved to Texas and we were married in May 2001. Sometime later that year guess who accepted a job in the Dallas area?? The crazy ex. I was not aware of this until the boyfriend reached out to me in 2012 about the affair. It would appear that she hadn’t gotten over him as she was always somewhere close by, waiting in the wings, making herself completely available to my husband.
In 2004 I came across cell phone records where I discovered her phone number and activity that they had been on the phone with each other frequently. I confronted my husband with what I had found. He said that he had been “talking to Julie”, as the blood drained away from his face. He said that he would no longer speak to her. Only, they weren’t “just talking”, as I later came to find out that she was living here at the time. And yes, they had been seeing each other. My son, now 11, was almost 2 at that time.
In late May 2006 our second child, a daughter, was born. Eight weeks after I gave birth my husband, who was traveling for work, met her in Connecticut where they had drinks and then spent the night together in the hotel where my husband was staying.
In October 2012 after I was made aware of their affair I called her phone number, provided by her now boyfriend, to confront her. Naturally I got her voicemail where I told her to call me. When I spoke with her boyfriend he put me in touch with her personally. I told her who I was and asked her if she had been having an affair with my husband. She innocently replied, “I haven’t seen Tom since 2006.” We were married in 2001! Guess she can’t do the math… I got no apology-nothing.
I recently shared my story on another website, similar to this one. She evidently saw it and responded with a condescending and dismissive reply. I guess she was upset that I outted her whorish behavior on the website as well as to people who knew her. Oh well. You can’t take the risk of sleeping with a married man and sneak around trying to meet him, whenever he can some spare time, and then cry about it when the consequences find you.
Her response to my post was all over the place but her basic complaint was that I need to place the blame ALL on him. She’s HALF right. This is a person who was always skulking about. She knowingly and purposefully participated in this affair. All the while knowing he was married and had small children. She is just as culpable. In playing the other “woman game”, there is always the risk of getting caught. You don’t get a pass just because he’s the one that’s married to you and not the mistress. Of course I blame my husband. And we now have very real issues that we are dealing with as a result of this affair. I have some very tough choices that I have to make for myself and for my children.
In her letter she claims that she did not move down here because of my husband. Really?? It would’ve been one thing to come down to Dallas and just do her job, without reaching out to let my husband know you were in the area. But how did he know she was in the area? I can just imagine that phone call…”guess what?! I’m going to be moving to Dallas for a job!!”
So unfortunately for her, because of how things unfolded, yes, it does appear that my husband being here also was a big bonus for her. That, she did to herself.
It’s also funny that in her response, she dismissively apologizes for her part “either real or imagined” in this affair that has left my family in a state of ruin. Coward! She couldn’t address me on the phone when I called to confront her 2 years ago upon finding out about it. She had to half ass apologize in a letter? It was a non-apology. She simply does not get it. She doesn’t understand what having a family is and how private and precious that is. She doesn’t understand, or care, what it feels like to have someone gunning to undermine a unit that takes a lifetime to build. No, she’s been busy “spending years educating herself”. Sweetie, we all have a pretty good idea of what you’ve spent years doing. Whether she likes it or not, she is what is described in the real world, as a home wrecker, a whore, a mistress-a married man’s dirty secret. She has given herself this distinctive honor. No one has done more to put herself here than she has. And no one has assisted more in putting her here than her boyfriend, who took the time to research, compile and present to me everything she has done. She has not genuinely apologized to me nor asked my forgiveness-which is what a person of “character” would do. But you can expect this kind of blame shifting from a defensive slut who has been caught messing around with someone else’s man. She is as deserving to be listed on this website as any other listed here.
I actually feel bad for her boyfriend. If you remove myself, my husband and her boyfriend from this equation what you are left with is a person who would sleep with a married man. And that is no prize.
