After 12 years of marriage my husband apparently started feeling neglected because between taking care of our two kids, running a business as well as running a home I just became exhausted. So one day he met this woman. And I use the word “woman” loosely. At first I knew nothing about her. He apparently only knew her for a few weeks before I became aware of their “friendship”. One night (1am) I was typing out an excuse note at the computer because one of my kids missed school that day. When an email came through to my husband’s email box. I didn’t get to read the entire email, because I only was able to read what the alert allowed. By the time I went to open the email it, had been deleted. But what I did read was, “Don’t bother coming over tomorrow because it’s not right….”. When I saw that, I shouted upstairs to my husband which was in bed apparently emailing back and forth to this person. Who the $&@% is Mindy Ramirez and what the hell is not right and why the f_$@ are you going over to this bitch’s house! I got the typical reply. She’s just a friend. It’s nothing. Blah blah blah. I said bullshit. From that point on I pursued my suspicions. Up to that point I had totally trusted my husband. Never asked questions. Never checked emails. Never checked his Facebook account. Well once I saw the portion of email that I had I became a PI. I found out so much! I couldn’t believe the stuff I had found out that he’d been up to. I had a talk to him about the stuff I found out and of course denied it or just gave me the I don’t remember routine. He was also into photography. Which I was only ok with until he started in with the models. Let’s just say, not all models have morals. We’ll keep it at that. But the thing that bothered me the most was this “woman” my husband became “friends” with without my knowledge.
When I first married my husband he’d asked me if he would be allowed women friends because he’d always gotten along with women. Well he’s English… Duh! Anyway I told him I wouldn’t have an issue with him having female friends as long as there was no funny business going on. No secrets. If there ever was a point I wasn’t included with a friendship that friendship would be over. Simply put. I was not going to deal with that nonsense. Well what do you think happened with this Mindy biatch. Yes! You guessed it. I wasn’t allowed to meet her. He was spending all of his free time over at her house. Spending all of our money. And all I’d get from him is…”we’re just friends!” It’s all in you’re head. Well what he started to do was take the kids in to school for me in order for me to sleep in a little longer. So I thought. What he started to do was leave the house at 7:15 in the morning with the kids. Stay gone until 1:30 in the afternoon. Pick up the kids from school and head back out again. Mind you, we only have the one car. So the entire time he was with this piece of crap my kids and I were stranded in the house! This went on for quite some time. Leaving and staying gone. At first he tried telling me that he was looking into starting a business and was getting info. That’s why he was gone all he time. Well I’m not stupid. I’ll play dumb to get info, but I’m definitely not stupid. Then he ends up gone all night. By this time I’m at my wits end. So now I have this bitch’s number and I call her. Yes I called her! As I said I started finding all kinds of useful information. I’m stressed out, depressed and losing weight like you wouldn’t believe. Didn’t mind losing the weight but not for the reason it was happening. So I ask her what’s going on. If he was over there. Of course she admits to nothing. Trying to act like nothing was going on. Trying to act all friendly. Made me want to puke. And the worst part was I had no transportation to track him down and confront the both of them. Well later that night he calls me because she “called” him… Yeah from the other side of the sofa probably. I tried calling him, but once he hooked up with her he refused to take my calls and texts. I was totally abandoned by him. This nonsense went on for months! He spent Valentine’s Day with her. He told me he was helping her dad look for cars… Bullshit. We were supposed to spend that day together. I had even asked him the Sunday before… Literally feeling like I was making an appointment with my own husband for Valentine’s Day. He left at 7:15 in the morning, told me he’d be back in 2 hours, don’t worry. Well… 1:30 in the afternoon he strolls in the door. I was angry. I was hurt. And if I could have I would have moved out that day. All my plans I had for that day ruined. I wanted to have a nice lunch date without he kids so we could have some alone time. I wasn’t even allowed that. He says we’ll go out for dinner. Yeah… Great… Waiting lines with a 7 year old and a 9 year old… Yay. So 4:00 goes by. 5:00… Then 6:00… Are we going I ask? Yeah in a bit I get as a reply. Ok so 7:00 is here, FINALL at 8:30 he wants to go eat. We go to Joe’s Crab Shack. 1 hour wait! WHAT!? Not that I was surprised… After all it was Valentine’s Day. We go to a couple other restaurants… 1 hour, 45 mins…. All the same. So we end up at Pizza Hut. YAY! I get pizza for Valentine’s Day! Now mind you, normally I wouldn’t care. As long as we spent the time together I’d be a happy clam! I’m not a materialistic person. But what he pulled earlier that day? I’d had enough. Oh and then he had the nerve to comment about having pizza for Valentine’s dinner on her Facebook page. I wanted to say something so bad… But neither one of them knew I was keeping track of her with my other account. I’ve never kept anything from my husband. Unlike him I’ve let him know of my other accounts. They were made to help out my daughter with her FB games. So ok… Done. Worst Valentine’s Day I ever had! The entire time all I wanted to do was talk things out. See where I stand. And find out what it was he wanted to do.
Through time things between us got bad. Real bad. I’m not proud to say it, but with his indifference he was showing toward me I had attacked him on 3 separate occasions. Tossed his ass out twice. Once I threw all his clothes outside on the front lawn. At this point divorce was ringing in my head. I just didn’t want to give up on 12 years. I wasn’t going to let this bitch steal my husband. I’m not just blaming her. He’s just as much to blame. But she knew he was married and she kept at it. The two of them emptied our bank account. That was my stupidity for trying to believe in him. But she knew he was married and had kids. She had the nerve to bring up the fact that I’d cut my husband off financially and I told her you better believe it. My kids need to eat. LOL. LIKE WHY WAS IT HER BUSINESS. he spent our tax return that was supposed to catch us up with bills and a few fun things. $6000 in 4 weeks! He wasn’t going to spend the money I was making from work. So my birthday comes… This is March. I’m thinking at this point maybe things are getting better. He takes me out shopping, we went out for dinner. Had asked a friend to watch the kids. So then while at dinner he tells me he’s going out later at 12am to do some photo shots of the band he met through Mindy. I said to him no he wasn’t. It was my birthday. He can do it another night. I get from him ” I told them I would do it”. Ok what about me. So yeah… Drops me off at home, and leaves at 11::00 pm. That’s when I decided nothing was going to change. I was stuck here. I had no car. No money. No where to go with my kids. I would just ride it out until I saved the money to get me out of this situation. During the month of March we have our ups and downs. More downs than ups. April… Good Friday he says he’s going out for a few hours to look for a job. I was in a good place. Had no suspicions. Felt he wasn’t lying to me as usual. Well 11:13am, I get this nagging gut wrenching feeling. I knew something was up. I didn’t care. I contacted a friend, grabbed the kids, got in her car and headed to Mindy’s house. Oh yeah… Found out where she lived as well. Well guess who I found driving around with mindy and her two daughters in HIS car. YES! That would be my husband. So my friend follows him into a parking lot. Plato’s is apparently her favorite place to shop and I confronted him. I screamed at him about lying to me. I called her a bitch. And told them they were both found out. He thought that because I had no car I would never be able to find out what he was doing. He was bewildered. She runs in the store with her two kids and he’s screaming about divorce. REALLY?! So I tell him he needs to get in his car and take me and the kids home. He rants about he can’t leave her stranded. Really? But he can me? Whatever. Well because of the kids I told him that he can take her and her kids home then it’s done with it. He tries telling me to just go home and he’d drop her off home and he’d come home. Really?! What does he take me for? I said no. I told him take her ass home, my friend followed behind to her house. The entire ride home she was screaming I guess. Her hands were waving everywhere. So we get there, then he comes over to my friends car and says that Mindy wants to talk to me to come inside so we can all talk. Not that I really wanted to, this was my opportunity to see the two of them interact. Well everything was confirmed that he was cheating on me. They wouldn’t even acknowledge each other. He would be outside, she was inside. I asked him for a kiss and I got a peck. Literally I get a more passionate kiss from my son. That’s when I knew. The day didn’t end on a good note. I don’t need to get into that, because my husband thought the needed to bring up something from my past before he even knew me. Then she thought she had the right to judge me! And he started in… WOW! I was done. Take me and the kids home, NOW! So the next day he’s still acting like an ass. Telling me they’re just friends, it’s all in my head. The end of April I give him an ultimatum, it’s going to be her or me. I won’t put up with the crap anymore.
May 2 comes… Thank God for May 2! He comes home from visiting her again and I just told him to go back there. I’ll send his things. I’d had enough. He said he’d had enough. He found out about some lies she had told him and when he confronted her they got into an argument. Ironic huh?! And from that day on he has been trying his best to make up for what he had done. The bitch still texts him periodically. Her number has been blocked twice now. If it happens again his number will be changed. I called her out on Facebook in August, and told her that I knew about the affair. He finally admitted it to me. She wasn’t fooling anyone. Made me feel good for a bit. Hopefully I pissed her off like how I felt when I found photos of them together. So my marriage never ended. I am still with my husband. I don’t trust him anymore. Hopefully in time I will be able to get that back. But he will never have another female friend while we are together! Oh and the German Shepard that she’s hold? My dog. She thought she was going to keep my dog.
