I’ve been married to my husband for 4 years now, going on 5 next May. I honestly have no idea when this started but I remember him being more and more active on his phone around June this year. Of course, I asked every now and then but I never really had a reason not to trust him. He kept saying it was his friend “Tony” from work and I had no trouble believing him.

One night he started talking in his sleep. I’m not sure how explicit I can be on the site but long story short, he was talking about oral sex and kept calling out the name Norma. The name itself didn’t ring a bell so I paid it no mind, just assumed it was some random sex dream.

Weeks later we run into some guy at Denny’s, he says that’s his friend Tony but he seemed very stand offish? Defensive.. scared even. I ran into a friend of mine from work as well at the same time. We introduced her to Tony out of courtesy. Later that day while texting with my friend, she mentioned knowing this Tony guy. She said one of his sisters was “the talk of the town” and that she’d seen her often at a local bar with her friends. I asked about this “talk of the town” comment and she let me know that this NORMA person was notorious for sleeping around with married men. That she had a child with a married man and was currently pregnant with another married man’s child. The alarms in my head went off.. Norma. Like my husband’s dream sex partner.

I couldn’t let it go so I waited and waited for my husband to be off guard and leave his phone unattended. He finally did one night and I’m almost sorry I went through it. The conversations with “Tony” were riddled with “I love you’s” and sexual banter. Try as I might, I could not stop reading. It went on and on for months. Sexting and nude trading.. I was in so much disbelief. I didn’t even bring it up for days. I couldn’t sleep. Where did I go wrong? Who is this person laying next to me? Even worse, I found myself wondering if the child she’s carrying was my own husband’s. What kind of person would have a sexual relationship while being pregnant with another man’s child? What kind of person would have no qualms with something like that? I hated every minute of my days until I exploded and let it all out one night. He denied it, of course, but I kept at it giving him detail after detail about everything I’d seen in his phone until he fessed up. He said she was the one who started texting him. That she got his number from the optometrist office where she works. He was very adamant about the baby not being his. He said they met up occasionally just to talk and she’d performed oral sex on him a few times. Like that helped. He said he had been trying to stop but she kept giving him sob stories about her spouse being abusive and asking for financial help because she couldn’t afford to pay her bills. She said she needed to get out of the house she was in because it was too dirty for her babies, as well as the one on the way. It was all too much to deal with at the moment. He decided to move out for now and I still don’t know what’s going to happen. I obviously can’t trust this man anymore. Thankfully, I have my own education and job.. and I can afford to support myself, as well as my own son.

I ran into my friend just yesterday, the one who initially told me about this Norma, and I let her know about everything. I was so ashamed but I needed to talk to someone. She was very supportive. She told me everything she knew about this person and that how I know her last name. She told me where she worked, at the optometrist office my husband had mentioned. I’ve thought about confronting her but I honestly don’t think it’s worth it. Any woman who has to resort to wrecking a happy home in order to better herself in life is pathetic enough as it is and not even worth my time. I am attaching whatever decent pictures I could find, or ones that didn’t have any innocent children in them. Thank you Norma Gutierrez for opening my eyes. I admit, I’ve been too naive and trusting until this point. I wish you every happiness and I hope you find peace one day.