My husband and I have been married for 3 year, going on 4 this year but we have been together for 6 years! We have a beautiful 4 year old daughter. I thought we had it all, family, home, love, everything, but it all changed on Saturday March 7,2015. So my mom and dad took our daughter for a vacation that day and when I went to go pick her up, my mom told me that messages were being sent to my daughters iPad. I was curious and looked and there I saw the messages with that homewrecker how much he liked her, he a was getting attached to her. I couldn’t believe what I was reading so I scrolled all the way to the top the day I want to say it started. February 24,2015 he told her I really like you and she was like I do too but I don’t want to get too close to you because I don’t want to get my hopes up and then get hurt. He sweet talked her and she fell for him. Funny thing is what he told her he told me that before lol. Anyways I kept reading their messages how they felt for each other. They had no shame. They said to each other they didn’t regret anything or don’t feel bad for what they are doing. It breaks my heart to think how he didn’t think about our daughter how he will hurt her when she asks why isn’t mom and dad together. He didn’t think he had a daughter and how when she gets in a relationship in the way future what if they do that to her. I hope not, I’m sure he wouldn’t like it but anyways I’m over here reading crying how can the love of my life do this to me? Yes, we had problems but it shouldn’t have gone that far to cheating on me with his coworker. Also they are both in the army and work in the same section but I will talk about that in a few.
This woman knew he had a family and still decided to start something with him. So I kept reading the messages and on March 2,2015 I saw the message that killed me, he asked her if she really felt something for him because he was falling for her bad and if it wasn’t sincere that he would rather end things. She told him she really liked him a lot more than what he can imagine. And he told her about how he didn’t just sleep with her just to do it it was because he has always liked her and that’s why he did it and he wouldn’t have done it if it wasn’t for that. Never thought the man that made a vow with me would do this. Anyways I just kept reading how they liked each other a lot just sweet talk. He told her he hoped when me an him are divorced he wanted to have something serious with her let’s see how that goes. And so then I just kept reading a lot of the stuff, they said the same things Over and over. So I scrolled down still and I came across a message where she asked him what were his real intentions with her (having doubts so soon!) He told her he wanted something serious with her of course! So then she was like I want to be the one who gives you hugs and kisses, show you affection when you need it, I want to be the one you come “home” to. They have no shame so he says aww you’re sweet you’re gonna make me cry I know I’m married and must be hard for you and make you feel guilty. My marriage is done already he had already talked to a lawyer he said he was a piece of shit (which he is) he cheated on his wife only because he was never happy if I really cared for the person I would not have done those things. I used to be faithful but got tired of my wife and she always refused to let me go it’s about time I do something and stop what we have. I really like you and I feel the same way you feel I can’t even concentrate at work because of you. He then stated for you I would not go out if you asked me, I would be truthful as long as you are. If I had you then there would be no need for me to be going out and do the stupid shit I do. I have good intentions with you. I love the way you are and look couldn’t ask for more in a girl. So she told him he wasn’t a piece of shit he just made a poor decision she wouldn’t restrict him from going out as long as he stays truthful and she trust him! Lol please. If he cheated on me honey, he will do it to you as well. She stated that she wouldnt ask for much other than his kisses and hugs and all that good stuff and you’re all I want in a guy. Like I said the texts talk about your cute and I miss you so I’m just gonna skip those and get to the good ones lol.
So Friday march 6, 2015 came he didn’t come home at all no text no calls he turned his phone off so I wouldn’t call him he admitted to being with her that night also on February 27,2015 he came home with marks on his neck he said they weren’t hickies that his friend and him got drunk and were fighting which I didn’t buy that story. But now anyways back to March 6th he stayed with her at a hotel since she lives in the barracks. So now to the day I caught them March 7,2015 I called him told him why was he doing it, he told me what are you talking about he denied it. I told him quit lying already I read the messages. He then said I’m not happy I don’t love you anymore.
My heart was literally ripped out. I’m not going to lie and say I’m better because I’m not. It still hurts. I thought this man was my best friend my other half, the love of my life. I was wrong and thanks to this I will only get stronger for whatever life decides to throw at me! So then he sent her a text saying don’t answer your phone my wife knows lol. I was laughing because I was able to see the texts through my daughters iPad. I texted her and called her a homewrecker hoe slut bitch and told her to stay away from my family. I told her if you were much of a “woman” to fuck my husband now woman up and answer and face it. Of course, no response from her. So then he texted her I’m sorry for everything we should just stop talking. Which I’m not buying that shit either. He can use a friends phone to text her or download a texting app or whatever. So then Sunday the 8th came I had to come back heartbroken had to our so called home and see him we then talked. I had to ask why he did it? Why couldn’t he wait until we were officially split? He still slept with me in the same bed! How could he do this to his family, his daughter. So then I told him I have to talk to your sgt. about this and he told me you’re going to fuck my career up, I can go to jail for a year what type of mother are you if you do that. I told him hey, you cheated not me so don’t turn this on me.
So now they aren’t allowed to have any communication. If they get caught they are getting kicked out the army. Of course, I don’t want him to go to jail either but he deserves everything that’s happening to him right now. He didn’t feel bad for cheating on me so why should I? So then he tells if I agree with $400 for child support and he gets 51% of custody but that my daughter will be with me regardless it’s just for the benefits so he can help me out as well. I told him I didn’t agree with that and I would talk to a lawyer and let them decide what’s right. He said ok and then he said everything was done that he was fucked thanks for everything and there I told him his goodbye as a friend and wife. I told him you shouldn’t have cheated then simple as that and we wouldn’t have been going through this. Don’t blame this on me now and make me feel less than how I do. I told him me and our daughter didn’t sign up for this and he should have thought of his actions.
For the first time I’m standing up for myself and our daughter and I’m ok with letting you go now, I know we were not meant to be together and I’m ok with that. So thank you for the only good thing you gave me our daughter which she is the most amazing funny little girl ever thank you for that. Even though things ended this way you taught me how to live and care for someone else rather than just myself and even though it won’t mean anything to you, just know that I will always have a special place for you in my heart and I wish you the best. I also told him I would not contact him if it didn’t involve out daughter.
I pray to God he doesn’t regret his choices. I know it won’t be easy, it’s barely starting and I’m ready for what life throws at me. I can’t say I’m better because I’m not but I have to be strong for my baby. This woman knew we existed and she should be ashamed for ruining a child’s home. He is also to blame. I wouldn’t even wish this on my worst enemy. No one deserves to go through this. Thank you all for whoever reads my story and hope you all understand me and don’t judge for being easy on this situation. I’m just being civil for my daughter. I don’t want her to hold a grudge later so I hope you guys understand and thanks again.
