This is my home wrecker and my almost ex-husbands story regarding how she tore apart a brand new marriage almost completely with childish games which he selfishly fell for.
We were married in October 2013, not a month later I get a forewarning from a friend at my husband’s work that this girl is “after him to prove she can steal him away”. A little back story; when we got married I was extremely sick and we didn’t know what it was and docs hadn’t figured it out yet. I was working full time and in and out of the ER from the first week of November up until Mid January. I gave my fiancé at the time a chance to postpone the wedding or even cancel it. He stated that he did not ever want to leave my side and would always be right there for me because he was so in love with me. We had been together two years, engaged almost 1 year and lived together a full year prior to our wedding. On top of that we had premarital counseling and a billion deep discussions of our expectations of each other. Tiffany came along and was just a colleague of my husbands. First she would text him regarding work things, then it progressed into issues at home with her boyfriend being abusive or his sick child. Now, while this was going on, hubby kept me informed. We had always been extremely open in communication. I told him 1. Stay away from her she is nothing but drama and if she truly was in need, she would have called the police not you. 2. Something is up with her and I don’t trust her stay away from her and don’t talk to her except work related issues, keep it professional. According to Tiffany, their relationship started November 21st…. not even 1 full month after we got married. (Evidence of photos emailed) She stated he told her we were divorcing and I was very mean and not giving him any attention you know the general story home wreckers give you. Tiffany is a perpetual liar (I’ve got evidence). Around this time, my husband started to come home late from work, he even forgot to pick me up from work one morning (we both worked nights and I was medically unable to drive). They were spending our money, looking at houses that he and I were to be looking at and talking about having children together she was planning my life for herself. The fights started, he couldn’t understand why I was telling him he was up to something no good, and would pick fights over the dumbest things and leave me home while taking all the car keys and be gone for hours on end. His immature midlife crisis ass was with her.
Fast forward to January, I am in major pain from spinal fluid building on my brain and need to go to the ER; he went to have “drinks with the guys.” I said “ok, just come back in 2 hours so you can take me to the ER”. He ignored my calls and I ended up calling his Battalion chief to take me to the ER. En route to me, while talking to me on the phone to get to our home, I apparently could not tell him my address, where I was or how to get there and stopped speaking. When he reached me, I was as pale as a sheet and couldn’t even cry. He said that I didn’t know who he was, but I still grabbed for him trying to sob when he picked me up off the floor. At the ER the rest of the firefighters were there with me, I informed them of what was going on, I couldn’t reach my husband and needless to say, when he arrived he had a whole wall of brothers to get to me, he had to go through. My husband brought Tiffany home to meet me a couple weeks later after I saw her kiss him at his work (the day after my job fired me for my brain tumor). He said he wanted to explain and wanted a divorce. She said she was trying to fix our marriage and he just wasn’t happy with me, that I didn’t understand how EMS/Fire worked and she was making him much, MUCH happier than I ever did. After a long conversation while she was in my home oogling my husband, I was polite… then she tried to pack me a bag of my belongings to leave so she could get some rest for work later that night WITH MY HUSBAND. I told her she could get out of my home, she was crossing the line. He left with her and I let him go. He couldn’t believe that I didn’t try to kick her ass and that I kept my cool the whole time and didn’t fight to keep him. Who would want to keep a man that sneaks behind your back when you are deathly sick and working your ass off to pay the bills? Not me. After twenty four hours or so, he started to blow up my phone IT WAS HIM THIS TIME, not her using his phone to text me. He wanted to come home and talk because he made a mistake. (I hadn’t talked to him at all) I was busy moving my money around so he couldn’t get to it and getting things ready and organized to pack up and leave. Tiffany then started emailing me, corresponding how sorry she was and how she lied to my face. Needless to say, I let her tell her tale and listened to what my husband had to say. Then his mother came into town… She took him to a divorce lawyer after taking him shopping. He filed for divorce because he “didn’t know what he wanted, he loved me and would always love me but just dint know”. Then Tiffany came back into the picture. She went on telling me all the details of their relationship and how he had met her mother and family. She also told me how they had slept together at her moms, her dads, and the hotel for her 21st birthday. She is 10 years younger than him. When he was out wining and dining her for her birthday, I was in the ER begging for a therapeutic spinal tap to alleviate my pain. She put into his head that my brain tumor was a fake and I just wanted to trap him into staying home. She told him all the shit a guy wants to hear, not anything he needed to hear. Tiffany ruined my marriage not once, but twice if you really think about it. He had a huge hand in it too he chose to take our circumstances and run away like a child.
When my husband was at work, I packed all my stuff up and my fire wives and family came and moved out EVERYTHING that was mine. We left him some dishes and things that were his before we got married and the 3 things he wanted from our wedding gifts. Tiffany had won him; I didn’t care at this point. I tried my hardest and let him back in the house no problem, due to the fact that we were going to work on things and go to counseling. I was on top of the world and doing great, my husband was an angry, bitter, sad, sad choice of a man. She had him all to herself. Then she didn’t want him. He was all alone-except his mom, and friends. 45 days into the divorce process he contacts me via friends, because I’d blocked him and say she wants to reconcile. I told him no. He placed our divorce on hold and set up counseling for us on his dime, and has given me all the new passwords to his things, plus a gps tracker on his phone to see where he is. It is weird, but I’ll proceed with caution. I told him to never cross me, cheat me, lie to me… he didn’t like how I handled all of it. My evidence for our divorce is awesome; I’m awesome at researching and finding my info. They both underestimated me and my skills. Even with a neurological condition that can eventually kill me, he still wants to be with me and believes everything I say now.
SO, I saw Tiffany recently, when I took some food to my husband, she was sitting outside on a break smoking between calls… she saw me and got up really quick to leave. I guess the coward didn’t want to talk to me, after all the times telling me via email that she was there for me and we didn’t need him… dumb girl, whores are for boys and my husband learned a hard life lesson due to your games. Leave your dream world and take a long look at yourself, you are nothing but a sad girl that any man will bang and leave. Why, you ask? It is simple, you can’t take a whore home to momma, and they can see it in your eyes and will eliminate any chances you had with their son.