I thought I had a strong marriage and nothing or anyone could ever come between us. Our relationship had always been about teamwork. Our sex life was GREAT. Boy was I so wrong. “A” and I got together in September 2007. It was love at first sight. By November 2007 we had purchased our own home. He adopted my daughter (she was 9 months when we met) from a previous relationship. Our son was born November 2008. I decided to become a nurse in 2009 and he supported me. In August of 2011 I was pregnant with twins and lost them in October. I graduated nursing school in December 2011. On January 2012 “A” was home on FMLA because he had been in a car accident in December. One day he leaves his phone to take the kids to school and it goes off so I check it (we have always answered each others phones), it was a Facebook message from Viri (she was an ex of his from high school, she is married with 2 kids). Wow I see hundreds of messages, which confirms they had been having an affair since around August 2011. I message her to call me. She did and denies anything and claims its just fun and games. A gets home and I confront him and he too denies it. I knew something was up. So I got a hold of Viri’s husband and made him aware of what I just found out (worse mistake of my life). “A” confessed a couple of days later. We decided to work it out for the kid’s sake.
Well from that day until October 2013 Viri became a stalker. She would make fake Facebook profiles to give me full details of their affair, she put an ad of me on craigslist personals, and she even went to the extreme of getting a job as an intern for medical coding at the same place I work at. It finally stopped when my attorney got a hold of her and scared her. Well just when I thought this nightmare was over, “A” and I got into an argument at the beginning of August 2014; we said a lot of hateful things to each other. He told me he loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore (I knew something was up at this point). So up until this past weekend all we did was fight. He wouldn’t call me nor the kids (he works in the oilfield). The 2nd week of September I was 6 weeks pregnant (since the miscarriage I hadn’t been able to get pregnant). So this past weekend I was getting his clothes ready to wash and in his backpack I found a battery, a sim card, and then the phone. First messages I see were from Viri . They had been talking since July and had seen each other towards the end of August. I message her and of course she’s using a phone app so her husband won’t find out. I fb her sister in law. I find her real number during this time saved in the phone as VD. I call her and of course she is denying everything. Once she finds out I’m going to destroy her marriage and send her husband all the messages, pictures, and videos of her masturbating, I should of sent everything to her husband the first time) she spills her guts out. Apparently “A” had a fake FB under another name and contacted her through her best friend FB and she couldn’t resist or say no. Her response when I told her you know he’s married and you’re married was: I can’t tell him NO and I enjoy the thrill. By the time her husband is calling me. He is in as much shock as I am. I give him all the proof he needs. Viri called me and begged me that whole night to please not show her husband anything. It was too late the damage was done and I didn’t feel bad. I finally go home late he has nothing to say (I wrecked my car that night). At 2 am after this surprise of my life I had a miscarriage.
I have stood by this man when he had nothing. Every job he gets something happens to him: car accident, loses expensive company equipment, or decides he isn’t happy and quits work. I work, care for our kids, attend to him and his family, respect him, spoil him, please him sexually, and give him everything I have. Well at this point I want him out of my life. He has nowhere to go and obviously no car since I wrecked the car he uses for work. It’s been a week we are in the same house with limited communication. Yes I think about my kids, but how can I continue to live a life full of lies? Makes me think our whole marriage has been a lie. I don’t believe anything that comes out of his mouth.. As far as Viri he is all yours, but we both know you are just a F**K. He told you in his texts when you asked about me. He said don’t question me about my wife or my kids know your place. You are and will always be just a F**K, nothing more. Remember he still wants his wife you are nothing more than someone he can fuck in the ass. I really hope you can convince your husband to forgive you since unlike me you have nothing to fall back on. I don’t think you ever graduated high school; didn’t you get pregnant at 15? Maybe you should stop sleeping around and be faithful to the good man you have at home that works his ass off while you are at your house f**king my husband with your son laying on the same bed or you have him locked up in another room. Lets not forget last time your daughter walked in on you guys. Viri you give women a bad name. How you and “A” live with your conscience is beyond my knowledge. Hope you live a miserable lonely life
